Ways to cope with your partner’s depression
If you’re in a relationship with someone who gets depressed it stands to reason his or her depression will affect both of you in different ways. If you work together you will both feel less isolated and hopefully more optimistic about a positive outcome. Even so, there are issues you’ll need to address personally.
Have faith in yourself and your future
It can be an unsettling time trying to support a person with depression. It’s a complex condition and while there are many common signs and symptoms every person reacts differently. Don’t get confused. You are stronger and more able to cope than you think.
Work as a team
Depression is an isolating illness. The person who is depressed looks inwards and they may also push you away. As much as you can, try to keep your relationship alive by doing simple things together.
Relate to the person behind the illness
Don’t lose sight of the things you love about them. They may still respond to matters of interest, humor, shared moments from the past and so on. If you normally ask their advice or opinion about issues continue to do so.
Try not to take things personally
They say we always hurt the one’s we love. It’s a truism that could have been written for depression. Sometimes people with depression can be hurtful in the things they say or do. Sometimes the problem is more about what they don’t say or do.
Keep your expectations realistic
This will make more sense the more you learn about depression. For now it’s important to note you can’t cure their depression and neither can you speed it on or find ways to short cut it’s progression. Professional treatment can be helpful and reassuring so use what’s available.
Stick to your routines
This may sound the most natural and obvious thing to do but it’s surprising how many people don’t. Depression carries less of a stigma but it can still be difficult for people to open up and share their feelings. Partly this is due to the fact their partner is embarrassed or ashamed. Find someone you trust – a professional if you feel that’s easier – and get things off your chest.
Look after yourself
It can be a taxing time and your support is only as good as your own health allows. If you’re not well yourself or you are feeling that you’re not coping then seek help.
Give support within your limitations
This is something you’ll have to judge for yourself. There may come a point when you feel you can’t cope, or you feel your own health starting to suffer. Giving care or support comes more easily to some people so don’t feel you are a failure if you’re struggling.
See more at http://www.healthcentral.com/depression/
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